I've been thinking about love recently, since I am surrounded by it due to the recent erupting wedding fiascoes. And not just the kind of friendship love, but the deep passionate mushy stuff. The kind that makes you want to reroute your life.
I have this certain book that contains tons of excerpts of quotes by famous people, and all of the quotes that I have read about love are very forthright and foreboding. Like my awesome "F" words? They give off this negative condemnation that a world with love is just as bad as a world without love. Is this really so?
I have this certain book that contains tons of excerpts of quotes by famous people, and all of the quotes that I have read about love are very forthright and foreboding. Like my awesome "F" words? They give off this negative condemnation that a world with love is just as bad as a world without love. Is this really so?
The book quotes one of my most beloved playwrights (because I have so many and am cultured like that?) Oscar Wilde,
"A man can be happy with any woman, as long as he does not love her."
This is a little humorous, but at the same time it makes me sad. For me, what I believe, and what I feel, is that when you are in love you are suppose to be somewhat content. I mean, sure I have had my hardships with love. I have been in love when at times I was not as happy, but overall I loved that person, and I was happy to go through rough times with them. Or to have someone to go through that with at all.
Looking back,
I have only been heartbroken bad once, and it left me a little relationship retarded. I remember purposefully occupying myself with so much work and things to do, so the only time I was left alone with my thoughts was before I went to sleep. And even then I would just lie there for hours thinking. Thinking about how numb I was.
Things are thankfully different now, but I still wonder about the decisions I made...If it would of been better to have been naive and innocent now, then to have gone through something that hard. I definitely have learned so much. But does passion grow too? Or does it only diminish?
When I get married, (which I do want to do someday) I know it will be for the right reasons. Mostly for that other person, not for myself. I want to be with someone who I know I will have tons of fights with, and will still be content in trusting the strength of the love and commitment we both share. Someone who I will hate as an old fart, and will still be holding hands with. Lame? I think not.
For now this dream will wait, and I am content with that.
"A man can be happy with any woman, as long as he does not love her."
This is a little humorous, but at the same time it makes me sad. For me, what I believe, and what I feel, is that when you are in love you are suppose to be somewhat content. I mean, sure I have had my hardships with love. I have been in love when at times I was not as happy, but overall I loved that person, and I was happy to go through rough times with them. Or to have someone to go through that with at all.
Looking back,
I have only been heartbroken bad once, and it left me a little relationship retarded. I remember purposefully occupying myself with so much work and things to do, so the only time I was left alone with my thoughts was before I went to sleep. And even then I would just lie there for hours thinking. Thinking about how numb I was.
Things are thankfully different now, but I still wonder about the decisions I made...If it would of been better to have been naive and innocent now, then to have gone through something that hard. I definitely have learned so much. But does passion grow too? Or does it only diminish?
When I get married, (which I do want to do someday) I know it will be for the right reasons. Mostly for that other person, not for myself. I want to be with someone who I know I will have tons of fights with, and will still be content in trusting the strength of the love and commitment we both share. Someone who I will hate as an old fart, and will still be holding hands with. Lame? I think not.
For now this dream will wait, and I am content with that.
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That quote is true... in a way. (:
Yea I know. I know Oscar Wilde is trying to be his perfectly cute funny self, but its still kind of sad. haha.
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